Hey Blesstie! I hope you are doing well on this gorgeous day.
Today’s blog should be a nice uplifting one.
We will be discussing validation, self-worth, and the importance of confidence.
What does it mean to be validated?
Should we strive to be validated?
Should we validate others?
Is God’s voice all of the validation we need?
Before we jump into it, I would like to share a story with you.
A few months ago, we had a carnival at our church in which they had games, food, face painting, and more.
And during this particular day, Olivia ended up getting her face painted into this nice intricate design. It was absolutely beautiful. Breathtaking.
She was soooo pretty. We shared with her how much we loved it and how beautiful she was. Her face lit up from ear to ear.
You know how you put on your best outfit and have a fresh hairdo and then you get ready to go out with your crew and you just know you’re the stuff? Lol Yea, that’s the kind of vibe she was on lol.
Fast forward, after church, we ended up going to Walmart to shop for a few items.
As we were walking in Walmart, I asked Dan a question, and this random lady stopped and answered my question out loud.
Kinda caught us off guard, but we had a good laugh about it. But I noticed that Olivia kept looking at the lady... not in a casual way but a kinda “I wanna be seen type of way.”
I thought it was kinda weird but honestly, I didn’t think much of it. So, we finished our shopping, checked out, and started heading back to the car.
On our way to the car, I was pushing Olivia in the buggy when I noticed that she had this sad sullen look over her face. I looked at her and asked what was wrong.
She said, “No one told me that my face was pretty. No one told me that they liked it.”
As you can imagine, this took me by total surprise.
That wasn’t the answer I was looking for lol.
So, after consoling her, I knew it was time to make it a teachable moment.
I had to explain to her that sometimes in life, you will have to be confident enough to show up and believe in yourself even when others may not hear you, see you, or believe in you.
And that is ok to desire validation from other people but not to the detriment of your well-being and worth.
You see even though we as her parents, the most important people in her life told her that her face was beautiful you would think that our thoughts mattered the most, but she still looked to others for validation.
There are a ton of lessons in this, so let’s just jump into it.
Do we need validation?
I would say the answer would vary depending on who you ask but for me, I would say yes and no. I believe that true validation comes from the one above. God calls us worthy, loved, purposed, His.
Part of me thinks that the reason we sometimes seek validation from other sources is because we don’t fully accept ourselves for who we are and what we desire, and sometimes we have a hard time believing the things that the one above has said about us.
So, instead, we look for approval from others to validate what we don’t believe about ourselves. It’s not really about them but more so about how we feel about ourselves.
Ways to Overcome/Solution
So, if you have an idea, goal, vision, don’t think that you need to get validation from other people in order to execute it. That’s simply not true.
However, sometimes we can be totally confident in what we are planning to do but we just want to run it by someone else.
In this case, that’s totally fine too, you just have to ensure that you are consulting with people who have your best interest at heart, who want to see you win, and who can possibly give you tips and advice that will further propel you towards success with that particular situation.
But even then, you have to be confident enough to know and believe what God has placed in you and what He has said about you.
And overall, we have to stop waiting on other people to give us permission to do what God has already appointed us to do.
So, now let’s transition into life application.
#1- Take everything to Him in prayer first.
#2 Believe in yourself beyond your own wildest imagination.
#3 Be humble enough to present your ideas to the right sources but don’t allow it to validate whether or not you move forward.
We all have everything that we need within us to become successful and succeed in our own right. The main thing is that we need to get out of our own way and just do it.
Do it afraid.
Do it scared.
Do it with tears.
Do it with uncertainty.
Just do it.
Your breakthrough is on the other side of deliverance from the validation of people.
Facts: God has already validated you from the womb.
Faith: Make a move even when you can’t see the next step.
Feeling: Get out of your own way and just do it.
The world is awaiting the delivery of your unique gifts.