For some reason, society has conditioned us to believe that we have to be strong all the time without ever letting our guard down. We’re told that strength means keeping it together, never showing weakness, and carrying every burden without complaint.
But that’s not reality.
No matter how accomplished, powerful, or resilient you are, you are not meant to carry everything alone. Life is heavy sometimes. And it’s okay to admit that.
If you’ve ever felt the pressure of being "the strong one" , the person who everyone looks to for guidance, support, and solutions, this blog is for you. Let’s unpack the burden of strength, the necessity of rest, and why God doesn’t expect you to have it all together all the time.
You Don’t Have to Pretend to Be Strong
First things first: you don’t have to pretend to be strong.
We live in a world that glorifies endurance at all costs. We’re told to “push through,” to “grind harder,” to “keep going no matter what.” But here’s the truth:
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Nobody is strong every single day.
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Nobody can carry every weight, every hour, every moment, without breaking.
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And you don’t have to.
Life is heavy. Unexpected losses, disappointments, financial struggles, family conflicts, it all adds up. And suppressing your feelings or pretending you’re okay doesn’t make you stronger; it just makes you exhausted.
True strength isn’t about never feeling weak, it’s about knowing when to pause, when to seek help, and when to lean on God instead of carrying everything alone.
The Burden of Being ‘The Strong One’
For those in leadership roles, the weight of always being strong is even heavier. Whether you’re leading a business, a family, a ministry, or simply the person that everyone turns to, the expectation to always have it together can feel suffocating.
When people look to you for guidance, it’s easy to believe that showing any sign of struggle means you’re failing them. But carrying everyone else’s burdens while ignoring your own is dangerous.
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You weren’t called to hold everything together for everyone else.
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You weren’t created to fix every problem, solve every crisis, and never break down.
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And you definitely weren’t meant to bear all things alone.
Being the strong one is not your identity. It’s okay to let people know when you’re struggling. It’s okay to take off the mask of strength and be real about what you’re going through.
Rest Is Not Weakness
One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is that rest is weakness.
But when your body, your mind, and your spirit are tired, that’s not a sign to push harder, it’s a sign to slow down.
Even God rested on the seventh day.
If the Creator of the universe made rest a priority, why do we struggle to give ourselves the same grace?
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Resting doesn’t mean you’re giving up.
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Resting means you’re recharging for what’s next.
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Resting is a necessity, not a luxury.
So take a step back. Step away from the noise. Let yourself breathe.
Find what brings you peace, whether it’s taking a walk, journaling, sitting in silence, or simply crying if you need to. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your rest.
The Cost of Being ‘The Strong One’
People admire strength but they don’t always see the cost of it.
Being strong can be lonely. It can feel like there’s nobody to lean on when you need support. It can make you feel trapped in a cycle of silence, afraid that if you admit you’re struggling, people will think less of you.
But let me tell you something:
💡 True strength is not about never breaking down.
💡 True strength is about knowing where to turn when you do.
When you’re carrying too much, you need people you can turn to. Whether it’s a friend, a therapist, a mentor, or a pastor, you need support.
And most importantly, you need God.
God Doesn’t Expect You to Be Strong All the Time
We put the burden of strength on ourselves. But God doesn’t.
There’s a phrase people often say:
"God gives His hardest battles to His toughest soldiers."
And while that may sound motivating at first, sometimes? It feels discouraging.
Because what if that soldier is tired of being tough?
God never said you had to handle everything alone. He never called you to fight every battle by yourself. In fact, Matthew 11:28-30 tells us:
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."
God doesn’t want you to be His toughest soldier.
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He wants you to trust Him.
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He wants you to lay your burdens at His feet.
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He wants you to lean on Him instead of carrying everything alone.
It’s Okay to Ask God Questions
Some people say, "Don't question God."
But listen, I must be a rebel because I ask all the questions.
And I believe you should too.
If you're struggling, talk to Him.
If you're tired, cry out to Him.
If you feel like you can't carry the weight anymore, lay it at His feet.
Psalm 34:18 says: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and He saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
You don’t have to come to God perfectly packaged. He wants the real you, the raw you, the messy version of you.
Your healing begins with that honest conversation.
You Are Not Alone in the Valley
When you’re in a season of struggle, you don’t need people telling you, “You’re strong, you’ll get through it.”
What you need is love.
What you need is reassurance.
What you need is guidance.
What you need is the reminder that God is with you.
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You don’t have to be strong every day.
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You don’t have to carry everything on your own.
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And you don’t have to prove your strength to anyone.
So take a moment. Let it all out. Cry. Journal. Scream. Whatever you need to do to release what you’re holding inside, do it.
Then, turn to God. He’s listening.
Vulnerability Is Not Weakness
We live in a world that equates vulnerability with weakness. But that’s a lie.
You weren’t meant to pour into everyone else while running on empty.
Reach out to someone you trust. A friend, a mentor, a counselor, let them know how you’re feeling. Because you are worthy of support, too.
Surround yourself with people who pour into you just like you pour into others.
Remember Who You Are
Life will feel unbearable at times.
But never forget:
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You are more than the struggles you face.
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You are chosen.
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You are loved.
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You are purposed.
Even when you feel like you have nothing left, God sees the strength in you that you don’t see in yourself.
And you don’t have to carry it all alone. Not today. Not ever. KEEP THE FAITH!
